Shrinks & Doctors Scrutinizing Pros & Cons

I would suspect that this is a topic of retrospection would give many here reason to ponder their own respective personal reviews.

Although in the last five years in recovery I have seen a number of psychiatrist's and psychologist's. I have tried hard to keep an open objective mind as to how

their analysis of me may seem legitimate according to their introspection of my characteristic demeanour and how it relates to my Rape-Related P.T.S.D.

and other related anxieties. For the most part I am ("somewhat") satisfied with their analysis.
However; being a Heterosexual Male Rape Victim

doesn't always allow for adequate psychotherapy services respectively attenuated for male rape victims.
I did read one post here at Pandora’s Aquarium that struck me as rather oddly confusing.

The person stated that there was "No" female, male, heterosexual, homosexual, or C.S.A. victims here...just rape victims inclusive. I find that description too restrictive.

There are unique differences and circumstances that every rape victim identifies with. When I began my recovery five years ago my first psychiatrist's didn't believe my past. And he made it quite obvious.

Needless to say I didn't stay long, three months was enough of that crap. I had an extremely difficult time finding a shrink that was willing to take my case. Statistically; so few male rape victims seek help due to the heavy stigma attached to male rape along with societal bias categorizing all male rape victims unfairly as gay or ex-cons.

In Atlantic Canada the luxury of finding a psychiatrist's or psychologist that is adequately trained and experienced working with male rape victims doesn't come by chance lightly, if at all. In the last five years I've been bounced around from one shrink to another who all have peculiar behaviours of their own.

You come across good-ones and terrible ones who seem so distant making me wonder why the hell they're even there doing such a job. Especially after I had laid out my painful vulnerabilities and fears in front of them to analyze and rationalize under their impassive scrutiny.

In light of all this I often question the validity of certain Psychiatrist's and Psychologist from time to time. Particularly when you think that there so called medical science is barely one-hundred and fifty years old.

It takes a very unique special doctor, nurse, psychiatrist, and psychologist with exceptional kindness, empathy and compassion to truly come to understand people afflicted with pain and suffering.

Indeed any woman or man who sustains the accursed ravagement and abysmal poignancy of a rape affliction.

It can be exceedingly worrisome and disconcerting trying to entrust to any person your own savage affliction relating to a harrowing rape.

There are numerous incompatible psychotherapy situations that fail to recognize the discrepant issues that encompass sexual orientation fears, associated with respective females and males who are victimized by violent rape.

While there are indeed a selective number of very good shrinks; In some critical circles there is reason to suggest that a growing number of shrinks excessively pride themselves into thinking that they have established a utopianized quick fix therapy solution to healing the afflictive mental stigma and pain of their rape patients. When in fact, all they've done is put a frail decaying bandage over tormenting wounds of pain and misery;

temporarily lulling to sleep and numbing the anguish from a vast number of woman and men who have suffered one of the worst atrocities conceivable by the human race.

What is it with the assuming overconfidence of many psychiatrist and psychologist ? What with their Freudian, Adler, and Jungian hodgepodge of theoretical hypothesis, suppositions, and speculations.

It shouldn't be of any big surprise that a number of shrinks today receive critique and disreputable reviews. While I do believe there are empathetically gifted psychiatrist's and psychologist's, that lend themselves to having an effective virtuosity.

Definitively however; shrinks are still far removed from adopting a perfected medical science which is still in it's infancy. Psychiatry and Psychology is a science of associationism, applied to a human cognitive process,

intrinsically structured with rudimentary and underlying half-truths, subject to a variance of representational perceptions and theoretical opinions infused with human fallibility.

Am I saying that shrinks are no good ? Of course not. I'm just saying that it requires prudence in finding the right one. While I am on the topic of Shrinks I might as well add Doctors to this list.

The last time I looked up the term Medical Treatment it was defined as the care of a patient seeking medical attention.

Every person who comes into a hospital or medical clinic is in need of some form of physical or mental help.

In essence, what they seek to discover is the compassionate skills and supportive help of a doctor who is willing to ("Listen") to their patient.

Perhaps I am emphasizing the term ("listen") broadly but, is not a doctor someone who helps someone else ?

When did the term "Doctor" ever get treated with so much reverence ? ( Oh ! right this way Dr. Smith, or excuse me Dr. Soles, what wonderful footpads your wearing, or pardon me Dr. Patterson; but, your flatulence has no odour).

At what point in history did a doctor become more than a trusted and learned friend who visited the sick, the diseased, and the dying ?

Are not ("real") Doctors humane caring people who take the sincere time to listen to their patients, not just as somebody who suffers with an injury, sickness or disease; but, more importantly treating their patients first and foremost as a human being first. If diseases are going to be truly fought, why not fight one of the greatest diseases of all...("Indifference") !

Numerous medical universities throughout North America, lecture doctor wannabes on transference and professional distance apart from their patients. Transference is inevitable.

Every human being has an impact on another. A doctors mission is not merely objective to preventing death and alleviating physical and mental suffering; but, to improve the quality of life in each and everyone of their patients.

That is why doctors treat diseases and suffering. They win some, they lose some. If doctors are to truly treat their patients, why not treat them as a person first, before the disease or suffering.

There's every guarantee they'll win, no matter what the outcome of the patient. There are some doctors who seem so damned anesthetised and lifelessly numbed out in their quest to understand the meaning of life.

Many doctors have much to learn about humanity. Taking the precious time to listen, laugh, and even cry with their patients.

Doctors can learn a wealth of knowledge from the heartfelt dedication of "nurses" who have stood through tested time and time again next to a suffering patient

with physical and mental fears, pain, and tears; concernedly and reassuringly holding the hand of an anguished, lonely, patient in real need of timeless moments of compassionate love and companionship.

In essence the genuine compassionate heart of a "real" nurse takes the initiative to know her patient well. Yes; doctors can truly be extraordinary human beings.

Real doctors have worked and studied long and hard to become the best skilled and sometimes the only trusted compassionate friend a patient will meet in dire moments of medical care.

No doctor however; should behave in a cold, impersonal, or indifferent manner, by professionally distancing themselves from their patient.

The best qualities and God-given natural ability a genuine doctor has, is not brought into harmony exclusively by their medical skills and knowledge, but; the healing gift of their innermost heart to their patient.